As of January, 2009, eighty people have read and evaluated this book. They range from twenty-five to seventy-five years of age, equally distributed between men and women. They are, as a group, committed seekers of truth, devoted readers of self-help books, attendants at psychological workshops, users of multiple dating services, and seekers of advice from trusted professionals. 

Some of their typical comments:

• "If I had read this book before my divorce, my wife and I could have made it work."

• "No wonder my relationships haven't worked. I had no idea what I was doing wrong. It's not that my partners didn't try to tell me. I just didn't get it until now. The lessons in this book are challenging, even demanding. But the way they are presented made me want to learn every skill Randi presents. I have confidence now that I've never had before."

• "When I first began the book, it seemed a little intimidating. So much crucial information to absorb. But by the time I finished, I realized that every chapter is a significant and necessary piece of the puzzle. It's like anything else in life; you get out of it what you put into it. Now that I've got it down, I understand for the first time what it takes to really commit to someone."

• "I've never heard these crucial comments stated with so much clarity and sacred respect. Somehow it makes you want to become the kind of person who would be in relationships like the ones in the book."

• "I've learned things from this book that I didn't even know I was interested in. What an eye-opener!"

• "When is the book going to get published? I want to give it to every person I know. If only new couples starting out could understand what it takes to make a great relationship while they still have the faith that their love will last."

• "I feel for every one of those people you wrote about. I can identify with some part of every one of them. It makes me feel less alone in the world, knowing that good people can get themselves out of really bad situations."

• "Finally a book that doesn't describe me as a predator/abandoner, out to use women without taking care of them. It helps me feel my own chivalry. I now know that I'd have no trouble committing to a woman who cared enough about me to help me build this kind of relationship."

• "This is the first book on relationships I've read that doesn't make me feel gender programmed. I can finally see a way to be fully free to be myself and deeply committed at the same time."