Relationships today are more equal partnerships than they were in the past. Without the limitations of defined separate roles, both men and women are freer to experience strength and vulnerability, to expect more openness in their communication, and to know each other more deeply.

The encouragement of these deeper friendships has created a new kind of emotional closeness between its partners, but may have come at a significant price. Despite more honest and intimate relationships, today's established couples have less frequent sexual connections, more infidelity, and poorer chances of staying together.

Perhaps to regain the separateness they feel will bring back sustained interest, many relationship experts in the last decade have encouraged people to refocus on the differences between the sexes. Their writings have emphasized that men and women are inescapably unlike one another in communication styles, desires, interests, and rhythms, and that similarities are far less that we've been taught to believe.

The return to the old divide has not worked. Couples are not willing to give up the emotional closeness they've achieved in the years of seeking equality. Returning to focusing on the unsolvable differences between the sexes has apparently resulted in more discontent. Long-term relationships are failing at a significant rate, and the honesty and devotion that accompanied more egalitarian relationships now too often has given way to the deceit and betrayal of more frequent infidelities.

The solution is for couples to find a way to have the emotional comfort and security of shared experiences, and the independence, excitement, and challenge of differences. Creating that kind of relationship requires a new and unique set of skills.

"The Relationship Bible, Winning at Love," shows how it is possible for couples to create long-term, regenerating relationships that blend the best of both worlds. It is a book that teaches every skill needed to make that happen. Illustrated with meaningful stories about people who have struggled through life's painful and beautiful moments and have beaten the odds, it offers practical hope that enduring love is possible.